How to Calm Your Worries and Fears in a Divorce~ 3 min read

Fear during divorce comes from uncertainty about your future, finances, parenting, and the legal process. Mediation and Collaborative Divorce help reduce that fear by providing more information, emotional support, and a less adversarial environment. With guidance from financial professionals and divorce coaches, you gain a better understanding of your options, more control over decisions, and a clearer path forward for your future.

Fear in A Divorce Comes from the Unknown

One of the biggest issues people face during their divorce is fear.  Worries about finances, parenting time, the legal process, or simply not knowing what comes next can have a negative impact on the divorce process. You may feel uneasy because you do not fully understand your family’s financial picture or the decisions that need to be made.

Mediation and Collaborative Divorce help to calm those fears by giving you more opportunities to ask questions and gather information. Instead of feeling left in the dark, you have time to understand what is happening and your options.

You Receive More Financial Information and Education

In traditional litigated divorce, the focus is on preparing for court. It is a process that will not give you the same level of financial education that Mediation or Collaborative Divorce can provide. In these settings, you have more time to review assets, discuss concerns, and learn how financial decisions may affect your future.

Financial neutrals are part of the process and explain assets, retirement accounts, property issues, and other financial matters in a way that is easier to understand.

Emotional Support Can Make a Difference

Not every fear in divorce is tied to money. Some concerns are emotional and can involve anxiety about communication, stress about meetings, or fear of conflict with your spouse. Collaborative Divorce helps with these concerns because the process includes a divorce coach to help manage emotional reactions, improve communication, and feel more comfortable during discussions. Having that support can help you feel more confident throughout the divorce process.

A Less Adversarial Environment Helps Reduce Stress

Mediation and Collaborative Divorce are much less adversarial than courtroom litigation. The negotiations and conversations are focused on problem-solving rather than courtroom arguments.

It is common to leave a Mediation or Collaborative Divorce meeting saying it was not nearly as stressful as they expected. Court trials can create the opposite reaction. Many people find the courtroom process far more intense after they have experienced it firsthand.

More Control Can Help You Feel More Comfortable

Another reason these alternative divorce processes help to calm your worries and fears is because you are more involved in the outcome. Rather than waiting for a judge to make decisions for you, you are part of every discussion and negotiation. That participation will help you feel heard and more prepared for the future.

When you understand the divorce process and have a chance to ask questions along the way, those fears and worries can become much more manageable.

Contact Family Ally

At Family Ally, we help you settle your divorce with care and thoughtfulness. If you are ready to make informed decisions and reduce the need for future court involvement, contact Jennifer Piper at 314-449-9800 or contact us online to schedule a consultation.

Family Ally is located at 130 S. Bemiston Ave., Suite 608, St. Louis, MO 63105.

FAQs

• Is Mediation less stressful than going to court?
  For many people, mediation feels less stressful because the setting is more cooperative and focused on discussion rather than courtroom arguments.
  
• What is the role of a financial neutral in Collaborative Divorce?
  A financial neutral is a professional who helps explain your financial information, assets, debts, and other money-related matters so you can both have a better understanding of the financial picture.
  
• Can Collaborative Divorce help with emotional concerns?
  Yes. The Collaborative Divorce team includes divorce coaches who will help you to manage communication issues, emotional concerns, and anxiety related to the process.