Essential Do’s and Don’ts For Email Correspondence

Navigating the complexities of child custody is a sensitive and critical matter, and effective communication is important in ensuring the best interests of the child are met. Email correspondence plays a pivotal role in facilitating discussions, sharing information, and documenting agreements related to child custody arrangements. However, it’s imperative to use the utmost care and consideration in these communications. This guide aims to outline the essential do’s and don’ts for email correspondence concerning child custody, providing a framework for constructive and respectful dialogue that ultimately serves the well-being of the children involved. By adhering to these guidelines, parents and guardians can foster an environment of cooperation and understanding, fostering a healthy co-parenting dynamic that prioritizes the needs of the child above all else.

  1. Do establish a set day and time to check your email with each other and stick to it. If you have a very young child, check in with your co-parent every day, even if all you have to say is, “Everything is great”. 
  2. Do confine yourself to specific and objective child-related issues.
  3. Do not allow your child(ren) to read the emails.
  4. Do not assume that you know what the other person is thinking.
  5. Do not make sweeping, labeling judgments, e.g. “You never think about our child(ren)”, “You never tell me anything”,  etc.
  6. Do say what you mean. Sarcasm is dirty fighting.
  7. Do stay with the here and now. What either of you did last year or month or that morning cannot be redone or changed.
  8. Do use “I” statements, e.g. I am concerned, I want or I need.
  9. Do reply. Let the other parent know that you have received the information. In some cases, you may need time to gather more information or to consider the information that has been shared before making a decision. It is alright to ask for more time, however, you must name a reasonable deadline and reply by that time.
  10. Do “save” or “print” any pertinent information regarding, appointments, itineraries or changes that you agree to for your child(ren)’s visitation schedule.
  11. Do not name-call, disparage, or put down the other parent. 

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