Common Divorce Misconceptions

5 Common Divorce Misconceptions~ 2 min read

When it comes to divorce there can be a lot of misconceptions and misunderstandings about how the divorce process actually works. You may have heard stories from friends or family who went through a divorce, but it is only when you experience it firsthand that you understand how the process works. We hope to dispel some of the common myths surrounding divorce and hope to provide you with a clearer picture of what to expect.

One of the most prevalent misconceptions about divorce is that it has to be a big, acrimonious battle. Many people believe that if they hire attorneys, the process will inevitably turn into a hostile showdown. In reality, divorce can be handled amicably through Collaborative Divorce or Mediation. These divorce processes allow couples to be in control of their divorce and work towards a peaceful resolution.

There’s a long-standing misconception that mothers always get custody of the children in divorce cases. This belief has become less true over the years, with many courts now striving for shared custody arrangements. In some places, fathers have actively campaigned for equal custody rights, making 50/50 custody more common.

Some people assume that divorce is a lengthy and drawn-out process that takes years to finalize. While divorce timelines can vary depending on individual circumstances, it doesn’t always have to be a lengthy ordeal. Many divorces can be resolved relatively quickly, especially if both parties are willing to cooperate and reach agreements efficiently.

A common misconception is that divorce will irreparably harm children and ruin their lives. While divorce can be challenging for children, it is not always detrimental. In fact, when parents can co-parent amicably post-divorce, children may experience less conflict and stress. In some cases, divorce can lead to a more stable and peaceful environment for children.

Divorce Professionals involved in a divorce case can dispel these misconceptions. They provide knowledge, educate clients about the legal process, and offer guidance on child development issues. They also help clients communicate effectively with their ex-spouses, maintain a child-centered approach, and react appropriately to challenging situations that may arise during the divorce process.

Divorce is a complex journey filled with misconceptions that can add unnecessary stress. It’s essential for individuals going through a divorce to seek guidance from professionals who can provide accurate information, dispel myths, and help them navigate the process with as little conflict and hardship as possible. By addressing these misconceptions and seeking expert support, individuals can make more informed decisions and find a path forward to a brighter future after divorce.

If you have questions or need legal assistance regarding divorce or any other family law matter, please contact Jennifer Piper at 314-449-9800 to schedule a consultation. Family Ally is located at 130 S. Bemiston Ave., Suite 608, St. Louis, MO 63105.

Jennifer Piper

Jennifer R. Piper is a family law attorney, mediator, and parenting coordinator with more than 20 years of experience serving families in the St. Louis area. She is certified as a Guardian ad Litem and frequently appointed by courts to represent children in high-conflict cases. Jennifer is a former Chair of the Family and Juvenile Law Section of the Bar Association of Metropolitan St. Louis and an active leader in local and state bar organizations.
Her professional recognition includes being named to The Best Lawyers in America® (2017–2025), Missouri Super Lawyers (2021–2024), and receiving a Women’s Justice Award from Missouri Lawyers Weekly. Jennifer also holds an AV Preeminent rating from Martindale-Hubbell. She regularly speaks on family law topics and has helped shape family court procedures through her service on multiple committees.

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