Author: Jennifer Piper

Avoiding the “F” Word (Fair) in Divorce

February 10, 2025April 10, 2025 Divorce

When you’re going through a divorce, it’s tempting to focus on what’s “fair.” But fair can mean something different to everyone and getting stuck on that idea can make the process harder for you and your family. What Does “Fair” Mean? If you ask kids, they’ll likely tell you that fair means equal, splitting everything right down the middle. But is that really the best solution for your situation? Not always. For some people, “fair” means everyone getting exactly the same. For others, it might mean dividing assets based on contributions to the marriage, needs, or what’s best for the entire family. Fair might even look like one person keeping the family home to keep the kids in their school district, while the other person…

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Rebuilding After Divorce: Steps to Moving Forward with Your Life

February 3, 2025April 10, 2025 Divorce

Divorce marks the end of one chapter, but it’s also the beginning of a new one. It’s natural to feel uncertain about the path forward, but with the right steps, you can rediscover joy and purpose. Take Time for Self-Discovery After a divorce, it’s tempting to rush into a new relationship. However, taking time to reflect on who you are and who you want to become is essential. Spend time exploring new hobbies, setting personal goals, or even traveling solo. Use this period to rediscover your passions and build confidence in being on your own. Re-evaluate Your Friendships Divorce can shift the dynamics of your social circle. Some friends may naturally drift away, especially if they were closer to your former spouse. Others might not…

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Understanding the Impact of Divorce on Your Adult Children

January 27, 2025April 10, 2025 Divorce

When parents decide to divorce, it’s natural to be concerned about the impact on younger children, but adult children are also deeply affected by this decision that their parents have made. Whether they are 25 or 50, your actions during your divorce can have an influence on your adult children’s emotional well-being and future relationships. Here are 4 recommendations recognizing the impact on their lives and maintaining healthy connections during the process. 1. Acknowledge Your Divorce Has an Emotional Impact Even though your adult children are no longer under your roof, your divorce will still disrupt their lives. They may feel torn between you and your spouse, particularly during family gatherings, holidays, or celebrations. Avoid burdening them with your frustrations about the divorce or expecting…

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My Best Divorce Advice

January 20, 2025April 10, 2025 Divorce

If you have been considering divorce, you have probably been asking people you know for their advice. As a divorce professional, here is some of the best advice that I can offer and what I often tell my clients. How you approach your divorce can shape not only the outcome but also your ability to move forward. Below are practical steps that can help you to guide you through your divorce. 1. Treat Your Divorce Like a Business Deal Think of your divorce as a business deal. While emotions are a natural part of any divorce, letting your emotions control the process can lead to unnecessary conflict and higher costs. The mindset of your divorce as a business deal can help you make clearer decisions…

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4 Financial Pitfalls to Avoid During Divorce

January 13, 2025April 10, 2025 Divorce

Divorce brings financial challenges. Challenges that can cost you not only money but add to your stress and how long it takes to resolve your case. However, there are some important financial pitfalls to avoid during your divorce that will help you to make good financial decisions. 1. Letting Emotions Guide Your Financial Decisions One of the biggest mistakes you can make during your divorce is to let your emotions take over when making financial choices. For example, you might feel attached to your house or a sentimental item, but a decision to keep these assets may not make financial sense. If maintaining the house strains your budget or you end up fighting over property with little value, it’s not worth it. Put your focus…

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Why Fighting in Divorce is the Wrong Approach

January 6, 2025April 10, 2025 Divorce

It’s natural to feel frustrated during a divorce but turning it into a fight can lead to more challenges down the road. Disagreements and tensions are part of the process, but escalating them into a battle can waste time, money, and energy. Rather than focusing on fighting, it’s more productive to find ways to resolve issues calmly and fairly. This approach not only helps you move forward more quickly but also creates a better environment for you and your family. It Drains Your Resources Divorce litigation is expensive. The longer you fight in court, the more money you’ll spend on lawyers, court fees, and other costs. This money could be better spent on things that truly matter, like your children’s education, your future retirement, or…

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What is the Difference Between Mediation and Litigation?

December 30, 2024April 10, 2025 Divorce

When resolving a divorce or legal conflict, it is important to understand how mediation and litigation differ. Each process has its unique approach to handling disputes, and understanding these differences can help you feel more prepared to make the best decision for your situation. Mediation: An Amicable and Private Process Mediation is a private, amicable process guided by a neutral third party called a mediator. The mediator works with both sides to facilitate open discussions and find reasonable solutions. One key benefit of mediation is the cooperative nature of exchanging information. Instead of spending significant time and money hunting down records or documents, both parties typically share what’s needed more freely. The mediator’s role is to assist both parties equally, helping with tasks like gathering…

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Understanding Post-Marital and Separation Agreements

December 23, 2024April 10, 2025 Divorce

If you’re considering changes in your marriage, it can be helpful to understand your legal options. Post-marital (or postnuptial) agreements and separation agreements are two options that can clarify your rights and responsibilities. Understanding the differences can help you decide which is right for your situation. What Is a Post-Marital Agreement? A post-marital agreement is similar to a prenuptial agreement but is made after the wedding. This could be weeks, months, or even years after the date of marriage. The agreement outlines how financial matters, and property will be handled in the event of a divorce or death. With this agreement, you remain married, but it can specify details like: While post-marital agreements are generally upheld, they might not hold up in court if they…

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Why Is January the Start of Divorce Season?

December 16, 2024April 10, 2025 Divorce

January is often considered the unofficial start of divorce season, and there’s a good reason for it. After months of holiday gatherings, family events, and the stress of the season, many people feel that it is time to make significant changes in their lives come January. If you’ve been unhappy in your marriage, waiting until after the holidays to start the divorce process can offer a sense of relief. With a new year comes new possibilities, and many see it as the right time to begin the next chapter of their lives. The Holidays are Over For many, the holiday season is a time for family gatherings and celebrations. Even in difficult relationships, people often choose to delay decisions like divorce to preserve the peace…

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How to Deal with Trust Issues During the Divorce Process

December 12, 2024April 10, 2025 Divorce

During a divorce, trust can be hard to rebuild, especially if dishonesty has been involved. It’s normal to feel uncertain about what to believe or how to proceed. Taking practical steps and focusing on clear actions, can help you move past these feelings and start to feel more secure again. Start by Collecting Information Knowledge is key when dealing with trust concerns. If you’ve been involved in managing your family’s finances, you may already have a good sense of the overall picture. If not, begin by gathering important documents like bank statements, tax returns, investment records, and credit card bills. Your attorney can help you review these materials and identify any gaps or areas that need further clarification. This process can give you confidence in…